Today on George’s Diary. I want to briefly talk about sex. We have often hear that sex is not good and it can attract demons to possess people who engage in them. How true is that? Many people especially single ones are often not ready to talk about sex even when they are struggling privately with sex and other issues surrounding it. I have put myself together and have decided to talk about sex against all odds. Sex is not originally a problem….
Sex is beautiful, sex is ugly. Sex is good and sex is bad. Truth is that, all sex is not the same! Just as all love is not the same, the difference between sex and sex is clear! Sex can be a disaster and as well can be a blockbuster! Sex can be love but sex can also hate, greed or lust! The opposite of sex is sex just as your worst enemy is yourself!
Sex becomes divinely endorsed when legitimate but sex can be divinely reprobated when illegitimate. Only one form of sex attracts the positive attention of Deity and that is “marital sex”. Other forms of sex attracts the attention of the arch-enemy, Devil and it includes ” pre and extramarital sex “.
What makes sex either good or bad is the motive and the driving force behind the action. If God hates stealing, then pre and extra marital sex is like stealing; taking what is not rightfully yours. If God hates selfishness, most sexual experience outside marriage and before marriage is often based on self-satisfaction.
That is why the beauty of sex is the curse of its abuse. Sex was endorsed in the garden when God took a part of man that was ” woman “. For that reason, a man leaves his father and mother to become one with the wife. Until you’re ready to become one flesh, avoid sex.
It is not wrong to have sexual urge and desires, don’t feel guilty of that. But it is right to be in control of your own body. Don’t let the devil manipulate your desires wrongly. He did so to Eve, the fruit have always been there, Eve had always seen it and even desired it. The fruit is a fruit of good and bad. When eaten under God’s instruction and approval, it results to goodness but when eaten under disobedience, it results to becoming bad. The devil manipulated Eve’s desires and it was channelled wrongly.
Using the analogy of the fruit in the garden, let me make my point more clear. Sex and it’s feelings are part of our making and part of God’s will just as the fruit was part of God’s creation. God did not actually declare that Adam and Eve will never ever eat of the fruit of the tree in the middle of the garden. He simply told them not to eat of it, perhaps for the time being. He also informed them that they will die if they eat of that tree. From the context of the story, I think it meant they will die if they eat of the tree out of disobedience. They knew it was a fruit, they knew it was edible, they knew it would be sweet and they even desired it’s sweetness just as many of us have sexual feelings and desires. Those desires for the fruit was normal, it didn’t get out of hand until the devil came and gave Eve more reason to eat of it. Today, you may be encouraged by someone to have sex since God placed the feelings there but always be aware that there is time for everything. Eve ate of the fruit and have some to Adam. Do you know why Adam did not hesitate to eat of it? Because he was desiring it too… He was tempted by Eve as Eve was tempted by the devil. Now do you see? The blessings of the fruit, the qualities possessed by the fruit, became a curse for its abuse. Many times, devil channel the desires using pornography. People often provide room for temptation through watching porn and masturbation! Of course, devil tempts people that way.
Like I not earlier, sex is good, it is great, it is beautiful but it can also be a deadly affair when abused. Remember! It was the same sex that result to the bad Cain that also resulted to the good Abel! Many are blessed for having sex and many suffer for having sex too.
How then is the beauty of sex manifested? It is manifested only in the approved way! Marriage! To explore the greatness, the sweetness and the beauty of sex, it is only in marriage. Outside the design, sex is ugly and dangerous. I don’t subscribe to the idea that premarital sex is synonymous to demon possession because it is not biblical but its effect is as well very dangerous. That if Paul advised this’d struggling with sexual desires to get married!
To prevent experiencing the bad side of sex, you should not harbor and condone loneliness. Live a life of freedom! Make friends with the right people, explain your feelings to matured believers or even your parents. Don’t confide in your boyfriend or girlfriend because they too ate struggling with the same feelings. If Eve had decided to confide in God, she should have explained her desires to God who in turn will give her the best advice. We don’t have sex because we want to have sex, we should have sex because we ought to have them. When the time to have sex comes, then we can be free to do so. The beauty of sex comes from sexual morality and the curse of sex comes sexual immorality.
The beauty of sex is love, the product of legitimate sex is love and the sensation of it remains love! Don’t turn what is good to become bad, don’t turn what is blessing to become curse for you. Avoid pre and extra marital sex, wait until marriage… So that you too can experience the beauty of sex.
“But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” 1 Corinthians 7:9
“Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.” Genesis 2:22
That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Genesis 2:24
“For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, slanders.” Matthew 15:19
“Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body.” 1 Corinthians 16:18
“I wrote you in my letter not to associate with immoral people; I did not at all mean with the immoral people of this world, or with the covetous and swindlers, or with idolaters, for then you would have to go out of the world. But actually, I wrote to you not to associate with any so-called brother if he is an immoral person, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or a swindler–not even to eat with such a one.” 1 Corinthians 5:9-11
“Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals,” 1 Corinthians 6:9