#AskGeorge: Right to marry a Facebook friend?

right to marry on facebook

Question: Is it right to marry somebody on Facebook or Whatsapp?

Evangelist G.
Ondo, Nigeria

The advent of Social Network comes with so many advantages and developments. Even terrorists have seen it as a useful means of communication to stay clear of the spies of the government. Social Network has made it possible that strangers can meet and really become good friends! The initial vision of Zuckerberg in establishing Facebook was to connect friends and families who either lost contacts or who is living very far away from each other. However, that seem to have changed with time as we are connecting with much more people other than those they’ve already established relationship before. With this many questions are being asked which includes the subject of this article! Is it right to marry somebody on social network?

Before answering this question, I will like to reconstruct the question to best represent what you have in mind. I think you should be asking

“is it right to marry someone I met through social network?”

I reconstructed the question because marriage is not possible on Social network. There is no clergy that would agree to conduct marriage service on social network. Lol! So let’s see something from the Scriptures

“A man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22

Pope Benedict referred to Facebook as the 7th continent! If I should answer the first question, I would have just replied with an emphatic “NO” but because I know it is the reconstructed question that you have in mind, I would answer it with question and explain further “is it wrong to meet people on Facebook?” I know you’ll say no! So let me explain further…

No one meets a wife or a husband on Facebook! We only meet people and find a wife in them! Where you meet people isn’t much a problem but it is the people you meet that matters! That is why it is very wrong to meet someone on facebook, engage them on Facebook and fix a wedding date without courtship or physical friendship. There is no way you can find a wife in a woman you’ve not meet in a real life! The “wife” quality is something to be found in a woman and not in a picture!

When God made Eve from Adam, He didn’t wed them without Adam’s consent. First, He brought her to Adam… Not in a vision or dream, not in a picture or artistic drawing… But He brought her physically to Adam who met her and found a wife in her! Let’s see how the Scripture talked about it

“The LORD God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”
24 For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.…” Genesis 2:22-24

You see that? From the beginning, Eve was the bone of Adam’s bone but Adam had to agree before she would become his wife… He said “this is NOW the…”, even before then, Eve was his bone but he had to agree before it becomes his… It was at the moment of that agreement that Eve became his wife. Like I said earlier, you find a wife in someone and you can find someone on social network. It is not wife that we find on social network, it is someone that we find! When we get to know them personally, we may find a wife in them!

I have met many friends through Facebook… I only found a friend in them after I met with them physically! At a point they were strangers but at this point they are no longer strangers! In fact, Facebook is no longer the foundation of our friendship! Facebook was only a channel through which I met them… But Facebook is not the channel through which I saw friendship in them! There are wrong people on Facebook just as there are wrong people in our physical communities! There are lots of sweet couples enjoying their marital life who actually met on Facebook for the first time and there are lots of couples who finds their marital life messy even though they met through physical contact.

I wouldn’t want to deviate from the question asked. It is simply a matter of meeting the right people. If she is the right person, do not feel bad because it was through Facebook that you met her! If you found a wife in her, then go on to enjoy the good things and favors you will continue to obtain from God.

Thanks and God bless you. You may also want to read my article on the beauty of marriage here: https://georgennad.wordpress.com/2015/10/20/the-beauty-of-marriage-part-one/