Please… Try to read to the end. It may be the answer to that question and challenge.
If there is anything we need in life, it is the gift of a good friend. Don’t mind the world’s cunning way of changing what something means using the wrong word. Friendship is God’s gift to man and believe me… You can’t do without a friend.
In the social media many people talk about self love, self care, selfie and all that. But come to think of it… Man was not made to be alone. Friendship makes your pain and burden lighter because a good friend will never let you carry your burden alone. A good friend may not really have a problem but your problem becomes his own problem.
I was counselling a woman one day when she asked that I be that person she can talk to whenever the burden is much for her to bear. She is the second person who has ever told me that. Her story touched me to the heart. Her sincerity and trust to confide in the unmarried-me to counsel the married-her on some marital issues didn’t raise my ego. It humbled me and I accepted to be that person after God and her husband she can confide in.
The moment I accepted it, it became a responsibility for me to always check out on her and ask of her welfare. Sometimes in the midnight I would be praying for her and her husband. Even without discussing her burden with me I have always taken my own share of that burden without her notice and I have done that in the place of prayer.
Now, that is what friendship does. Friendship can make a dying man laugh even when the eyes is closing. It can give hope to the hopeless and it can make the rejected feel on top of the world.
As an extreme introvert, I have experienced so much loneliness to a point I once felt suicide would be a good way of leaving this lonely world. Introverts can tell better how it fees to be lonely. They are surrounded with potential friends, they fake smiles and campaign self-love but they die inside. I was a victim of “introvertism”.
It is true that there are lots of enemies parading as friends but the presence of weed cannot stop wheat from being wheat. The presence of wolves in sheep clothes doesn’t mean that sheep don’t exist. The presence of homosexuals don’t mean that women have become men. Lots of people who have fallen victim of betrayal, cheat and gossip often talk about self-love and self care but down within them, they still feel a space yet to be filled up.
Friendship can change someone from worst to best and friendship is a pill for longevity. The power of friendship is the greatest form of human power because it is the power of love. David loved Jonathan with a love that surpasses the love between a man and a woman. That is the power of friendship… That is why even in marriage, friendship is required to keep the couples together for life.
Romance brings temporal care and unity but friendship brings permanent union of souls. There is romance in every friendship, you may not see it but its there. But there may be no friendship in so many romance.
Friends stay even when family disappears. The chains of friendship is stronger than the chains of family. The writer of Proverb said in 18:24
“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
A true friend is always closer than a brother. A true friend is beyond mentorship. What would make someone wake in the midnight to pray for you without your notice? Its always the bond of friendship that makes him/her aware of that responsibility. Friendship isn’t what happen at Fast food joints, its not what happens at Shoprite… Friendship happens in the heart. Distance isn’t a barrier to friendship.
Friendship makes it possible to save one from danger. A friend may slap you just to distract you from a gaint blow. A friend may slap you to save you from death as a result of malaria coming from mosquitoes. On the contrast, an enemy in friends clothing will pamper you till the little vampire sucks all your blood. The wise book made it clear
“Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” Proverbs 27:5-6
A friend can save you from falling and even if he couldn’t save you from falling he can help you stand when you fall. The Bible says
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
Can you see that Man is not meant to be alone. Man is not meant to bear pains alone, man is not meant to carry a burden alone. Self-love and self-care may sound ideal for someone who just got betrayed but it is full of lies and trauma.
A brother may be help you just to save himself from shame but a friend is there all the time. Even the wise man wrote
“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity.” Proverbs 17:17
It may take extra carefulness to choose our friends but it is worth it. The Wise man also wrote
“The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.” Proverbs 12:26
A friend is perfect and yet flawed in the eyes of others. Friendship may seem like a deliberate attempt to become stupid, to die for another, to laugh with another and to help another rise when they fall but friendship is the best.
Look at Job of the Bible. When things got though, when life became meaningless everyone deserted him. Even his wife technically wanted him to die so that the bound of marriage can be lifted. She wanted to leave too. It was his friends who came and sit with him. Yes, they said lots of things he didn’t like but they were still people who God used to lift him up again. Friends are gift from God. The power of friendship is greater than the power of Satan and all his cohorts combined. That is why he will always want to use the power of friendship in getting people and God also uses the power of friendship to get people too. The power of friendship is a power supplied by God… It doesn’t work individually. It’s only active in friendship.
Finding such a friend makes life easier for you. Taking such friendship serious is a great step to take. Don’t loose them by thinking better people are everywhere. I know such a friend…. JESUS.
Jesus is such a friend who left his divine nature in heaven, came to earth as a man and laid down his life for those he love. He came with a promise of lifting our burden and giving us a new life. In Matthew 11:28-29, Jesus beckoned all to come on to him with a promise of giving anyone who comes rest.
I know a friend… There is a friend in Jesus.