MARRIAGE & MONEY


Girls, if you don’t mind… Read this!

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I was at the Barber’s shop sitting comfortably and humming to the tune of the classical songs that was being played on the set. My eyes was fixed at the mirror to see what the young barber was doing on my hair and what’s going on at my back. Lots of people were coming in and going out as the same shop served as a photocopy center. Most people who came in were simply there to charge their phones anyway… You know the situation of electricity in the country.

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I had kept looking behind me through the mirror when one young squared face lady entered! She came to charge her phone too! As she entered, she met her friend (or gossip mate) and they exchanged pleasantries. The next thing I heard was 

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“You didn’t show up for Juliet’s wedding again” one of them had said
“Me? Come to a poor man’s wedding?” Another replied
“My sister… Juliet is crazy! Are we eating love? Look at how she wants to end up herself!”
“Nne, for me… I don’t care if he loves me or not. I don’t even care if I love him or not. Once I meet a rich man, I dump him. Nobody sees party and go for funeral.”

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They continued and then I began to think! What is wrong with some ladies? Is money really that important? The young lady that was talking isn’t even well mannered! Give her to me for free… I will still reject her by fasting and praying for that sake! From all ramification, she needed rehab at that time because all the while I’ve known her, she’s just a lady and not a wife to be!

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Listen, money is the last thing to consider in marriage, money is one of the most important thing in marriage. 

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Ask Mitchell Obama, she married her husband when he wasn’t a rich man! Ask Patience Jonathan, she married Goodluck Jonathan when she never knew he was going to be the president! Ask Mrs Oyedepo… She married her husband in the time of challenges! Look at Dr. Becky, she married and suffered with her husband! That is what marriage is… In marriage, the two builds it together! They achieved success together!

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Lots of young ladies are looking for already made men, they think marriage is fine as long as money is there! Lots of people are in rich man’s home today, living luxurious life, driving the best car, traveling outside the country every time but they are not happy in their marriage. No matter how you do your logic, money is not much more important than love, understanding and vision! Many ladies have missed the best man simply because he wasn’t rich when he came to them! If you ever reject a man only on that basis… I pity your ignorance, I pity you and your future!

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If he loves and respect you, he will definitely want to take care of you whether there is money or not! Let me ask you… Don’t you recharge your phone whether you have money or not? Don’t you take care of yourself whether you have money or not? If he loves you, nothing will stop him from taking care of you. Money is not what makes a man responsible… Sometimes, it makes them irresponsible especially when the woman is not part of the success story! Besides, the man shouldn’t bear the burden alone. Every lady must learn to be supportive even before entering into marriage! Have something you love doing, start doing it and you will be a great wife!

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I have witnessed people who married rich men but realized they were married to thieves, cultists and kidnappers! This doesn’t mean there aren’t good rich men out there, this doesn’t mean it is wrong to marry rich men. But, when you find yourself with a visionary man who doesn’t have a car or live in the best house… Still stick to him if he loves you and if you love him too! 

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One of the ways to know who is right for you is not money! I have seen a rich woman marry a man who has no money and today they are living happy lives, the woman remained submissive and remained ever grateful to God. As long as a man you love is walking the same direction with you and proposes to you, what stops you from getting married to him?

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If you break up with someone just because he has no money, you are a fool and I am not sorry to use that word.

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  • If he abuses you, break up with him! 
  • If he doesn’t respect your choices, break up with him!
  • If he says you must have sex before marriage, my dear… BREAK UP with him!!!
  • If he is not walking the same direction with you, break up with him!
  • If he is not born again, YOU ARE TAKING A RISK!
  • If he is lazy, you’re taking a risk!!!

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There are lots of reasons to break up with someone and never marry them but not having money is never part of it! Don’t let those friends of yours deceive you. Grand wedding doesn’t bring about grand marriage. Sweet reception doesn’t make marriage sweet! It is better never to have reception party and celebrate your silver, golden and diamond jubilee than do wonderful reception party but remain unhappy forever! Don’t forget that marriage is a lifetime union!

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Calm down sweetheart, don’t rush things! Your wedding must not be classic, it can be very simple… Yes, people will talk! But you’re not marrying them! Just calm down and settle with that young man… You will not regret it!

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I believe I just ministered to someone’s heart! God bless you.

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