GEORGE IS IN LOVE


:

There is this eye we receive from certain people when we communicate our love life to our audience. If you can picture an aged professor drawing down his glasses to see above it; that’s the look we get from the elderly ones when a young person makes mention of the word “love”. 

:

Aside the above scenario, young people express fear when pressured to talk about their “love” life especially Christians trained in religious ways. Some feel guilty after texting someone with “I love you” and one is forced to ask “is it sin to love?”… I know where the problem came from.

:

While growing up as a Child, the most abominable thing to do was to be very fond of a female class mate talk more of saying she is my friend. We were forced to think that something was wrong with that, we were forced to think that friendship with the opposite sex is immoral but because the chemistry going on in our body just can’t die away, we find ourselves not having the entire control over how we relate to the opposite sex.

:

Whether at home or at the Children’s church, we were convinced beyond every reasonable doubt that the moment we get attracted to someone of the opposite sex, we are marked for hell occupancy. We grew up with it, some of us got more serious in Church and some of us got more serious with social life while some lived in the balance of the two. You could hear a Pastor say in Church “those of you who have female friends will go to hell”… They only confuse us with their confusion.

:

The result of the orientation we received was that we gave in to the line of thought that says “it is sin, but we cannot control it. So let us just do it in secret”. Relationships became a very secret affair! But why shouldn’t it be secret? Our Parents will beat us; the Pastor will give us long moral instructions and also give us back seats in Church. Other religious folks will look at us in contempt even while they are not free of the supposed offence. This is why people are not ready to disclose that they are in a relationship or who they are in a relationship with… They will be tagged as “sinners” if they do. Those who don’t have the audacity to tell someone how they feel about them decide to live in the heaviness of their hearts.

:

What do we get in return? Since it is a secret affair, there is no one to guide us, no one to tell us the boundaries we are not supposed to cross, no one to tell us how to maintain relationships and no one to even call us to order when we are stepping into the fire, we end up messing up! We get pregnant, we keep it secret! It started secretly after all! We have a secret meeting and we also decide to abort it and we do it secretly! Things continues to worsen, we become emotionally haunted and we even enter marriages with broken hearts and lingering pasts and we still cannot find that courage to share these secrets because it started in the secret.

:

We have all experienced it, I have too! I have seen myself in situations where I am so much fond of someone that I become obsessed with them. Given any slightest opportunity, I try to meet up with the demands of being the worthy guy. I do lots of childish stuff and at the end mess up my heart! Why? Because I cannot ask mum or dad questions, I can’t seek their advice on such cases since they will beat me and say I am spoilt.

:

No matter how we pretend to be very spiritual, we all come to that point where we fall for someone, where our heart melts at the sight of such persons, where we just want to call someone our own. Some folks say lots of things to cover up but it is truth that cannot be hidden. God created inside each and every one of us the ability to attract someone and the ability to be attracted to someone. Feelings of love isn’t something we hide in our heart, it is something we express. It is better we express it and get disappointed than get sick because our hearts has been overloaded with it. Most of us never learnt anything about relationship from our parents and elderly ones because we were not ready to ask questions or because they were not ready to teach us, we only learnt from our mistakes and many people’s mistakes isn’t minor. They only begin to ask of our relationship life when our age is not funny anymore… 

:

Had it been our elderly ones are wise enough… Perhaps they are wise but they refused to put their wisdom to work… They wouldn’t have discouraged us from making friends with the opposite sex; they wouldn’t have given us the impression that there is a big deal in being friends with someone else. By trying to be over protective, they indirectly lead us into exploring life by our own selves… Yes! We end up learning by ourselves too but we make lots of damages before learning and some of these damages leave us with a mark of regret and sorrow.

:

Some learnt their lessons only after having an abortion, some learnt their lessons after they have dropped out of school to take care of an unprepared baby or marriage and some have learnt their lessons only after dose someone has taken a part of them away.

:

As an emotional person, it was after series of heart breaks that I learnt I don’t need to be in an intimate relationship as a young teenager… I just need to enjoy the blessings of mutual friendship. I learnt that I need to open up myself to people and give everyone opportunity to mingle with me thereby given myself opportunities too but then I was also very afraid to ever be in love with someone again! Many years have passed, I have been attracted to people but because of the fear of the unknown I have always kept mute. However, growing slowly into an adult-youth, I am becoming more ready to take the next step. Not that I have taken that step but I am no longer confronted by any sense of guilt when I harbor such thoughts.

:

Life is in stages; even though our parents didn’t lead us well in some steps especially as regards to our “love life” we must vow never to make the mistakes our parents made. We don’t need to criticize or beat young people for associating with an opposite sex, we rather need to educate them with love and even be their “relationship mentors”. Our elderly pastors, leaders and parents have to take up this role of being their children’s “relationship mentors” rather than leave them look for answers themselves. Enough of being religious with friendship, relationship and sex in the name of “spirituality”.

:

 I know better now and I am ready for the next step. 

:

My name is George Onyedika Nnadozie… I am a Christian and I am in Love.

:

#KingGeorge

#GracefulGeorge

 

Advertisements

Feel free to talk about this! Post your comment here!

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s