​ASKGEORGE: ADDICTED TO MASTURBATION & PORN



“Dear George, I am addicted to pornography and masturbation. I am also a Christian. Please, what do I do?”

– Obi, Enugu-Nigrtia

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Answer:

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One thing about masturbation is that no one engages in it without becoming addicted. It is very easy to be addicted to masturbation because it doesn’t need a second party, it is just you and what you visualise in your head. 

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Masturbation and Pornography is so related. Masturbation addiction leads to pornographic addiction and pornography also leads to masturbation. So whichever one someone gets involved in, the other will surface. This is because masturbation doesn’t just happen, people visualise lots of things during masturbation. There is always an object of sex in the imagination when masturbation is going on.

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If you are addicted to any of them and you really want to break free from them, you’ve taken the right decision and its not mission impossible. First, you need to ignore the myths concerning masturbation. The myth includes that the moment you engaged in it, you become possessed with a demon who comes invisibly to have sex with you. That shouldn’t be the reason you want to stop masturbation and pornography. However, addiction in such cases are battles of the mind that usually affects you even in the spiritual realm.

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I would also want to let you know that stopping masturbation and pornography isn’t something that happens at a flash! It is a gradual process, it is something you keep working on until you become very normal. Do not expect that you will loose the desire at once! It will remain there but you’ll have to deal with it. 

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Addiction is a repeated action that becomes registered in your body system causing you to repeatedly do same thing over and over again. For instance, if you continue to drink water every morning even when you don’t feel like, it will not take long, your body system will begin to make demands for water every morning! Many people addicted in masturbation agrees that they often struggle to avoid it but still fall into it.

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Addiction to masturbation and pornography has negative effects. It brings depression, it even affects our relationships and marriages. 

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How to overcome addiction:

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ADMIT AND DECIDE: one of the most wonderful ability God gave to us is the ability to make choices. The first step one takes from getting out of pornography and masturbation is deciding to quit! There is always an inner strength that comes with our decision! In the Bible, we are encouraged to decide turning away from our sins before anything else. So, one must decide to repent from pornography and masturbation before going further to do anything else. Before you make a choice of becoming better, you must admit that you’ve not being getting it! This can only be done in humility

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“The wicked in his proud countenance does not seek God…” (Psalm 10:4). “When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom”(Proverbs 11:2).

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ACCEPT JESUS: this particular step is for people who have not given their hearts to Jesus. Accepting Jesus gives you power of becoming a son of God (John 1:12)! This power includes a change that gradually flow from the inside out. Whether addicted to something or not, it is important that one confesses Jesus as his personal Lord and saviour. Addiction is a battle that needs the highest authority! When you come under Jesus, you are sealed from destruction!

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GIVE UP THE OLD WAYS: Now that you have made decisions to quit pornography and masturbation, it is time to take actions based on your decision. Deliberately do away with pornographic materials at your possession. Such things are now easy to access on the internet but you also have to deliberately stop watching porn and rather start watching other things. Have something to remind you of your decision. It can be a sticker on the door to your bathroom, a sticky note as your wallpaper and other things! This is not something God will force you to do, it is something you do for yourself! Whenever you see yourself trying to do it, tell yourself “I am better than this… I have overcome this”. But never ever come to think that this is what you can do on your own. Paul narrated his own frustration

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“I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do — this I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want to do, it is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it. So I find this law at work: When I want to do good, evil is right there with me. For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in the members of my body, waging war against the law of MY MIND and making me a prisoner of the law of sin at work within my members. What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death?” —Romans 7:15-24

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TRUST GOD: God is at work in you. You may find it hard to believe because you are not so good! But if you have given your heart to Jesus, God is working in you. You need to always trust God and His word. You must understand that God loves you no matter what you do and you want to change because you love God not because you are looking for God’s love. No matter how addicted you have been, just keep trusting God and keep acting inline with your trust in Him. You need to always admit that you cannot overcome sin on your own! 

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PRAYER AND CONFESSION: the moment you became born again, you received a new life and your spirit is righteous. The bible says that the prayer of the righteous avails much! In James 15:16 James encourages Christians to confess sins to one another and to pray for one another so that they may be healed, he goes on to tell them that they are righteous and their prayers avails much! Your addiction didn’t stop your righteous spirit from being righteous. Prayer is a spiritual exercise and when you pray, you are wielding the power that God has supplied to you. Pray in absolute trust and dependence on God. Confess positive things about your life, confess that you are saved, confess that you are the righteousness of God, confess that you have overcome the world in Jesus! You will get more positive things to confess when you study God’s word. With your confessions and declarations in faith, you can move mountains Mark 11:23-24.

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RENEW YOUR MIND: when you got born again, its your spirit that got born again and not your mind or your flesh. So, you need to renew your mind with the word of God. The bible is God’s word. You need to constantly study it and apply it to your life. In fact, as you study God’s word, you are renewing your mind. It is advisable to start with the new testament. The word of God has the power to cause changes. Romans 12:2 says “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is — his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

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The bible also says in Proverbs 4:23 that our thoughts controls our life. This means your actions are results of your thoughts.

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Another way of mind renewal is to always think right. Pauls asks us to think what is right and beautiful! Hear Paul

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“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things.” Philippians 4:8

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“Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory. Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.” Colossians 3:2-5

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We can only put those things that belong to our earthly nature to death by consciously putting our minds on things above!

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We also recommend you start reading Christian books, listen to Christian teachings and spend your time doing positive things!

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CHOOSE A MENTOR OR FRIEND: You definitely need someone to talk to whenever you see yourself going back to your old ways. You also need someone who teaches you the word of God and encourages you to keep moving. This can be a friend or a mentor. Never go for people who will insult you, share your weakness to the public or tell you how bad you are. You need someone who can listen, pray and guide you. While the Holy Spirit is always your mentor, He can work through these people too and of course the bible encourages us to make right companies. It is very important you choose someone who is spiritually mature but not necessarily popular. We also recommend choosing someone who will not take advantage of your weakness to lure you to more sin. The moment you start sharing your weakness with someone who is ready to listen and care, you will see yourself gradually coming out of it!

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BURN YOUR ENERGY: Loneliness is what led some people into masturbation and pornography addiction. An idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Avoid being idle and learn to be with friends. Don’t always spend your time alone. Get more committed to good clubs or church organisation. Mix up with people and learn to go out whenever you are free! Channel your energy to other things like sports, dance and the rest!

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The list may go on and on but the ultimate thing is that you’ve admitted that something isn’t right with you and you’re ready to deal with it trusting absolutely in God’s strength. Remember, it may not come as quick as you expect it, it may not go so smooth as it appear here but if you can continue trusting God and working on yourself, you will experience victory. Along the line, you may still find yourself doing it… Don’t worry, don’t panic and don’t let the devil hold you with your conscience. Just rise up whenever you fall, dust yourself and keep walking.

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God bless you.

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#GracefulGeorge

#KingGeorge

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