DEAR LADIES… THE RING ON THE FINGER



If you can think hard, read this stuff. If you can’t think hard, skip this post.

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One of the memorable times in the life of every woman is the day the ring was slid into her finger. Most women experience the “ring” thing two times and the first is usually accompanied with unusual and unexplainable tears that rain down their eyes. They act that way because they are mostly very emotional beings and are designed to express emotions.

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However, the ring can mean so many things. The ring is a round object… No one knows the beginning nor the end. In fact, it has no beginning nor end. The ring therefore can mean lot of things.

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It may mean bondage forever…

It may mean living in domestic violence forever…

It may mean living in abject poverty forever…

It can also mean love that has no end…

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It what circumstances did you accept that ring? The circumstances in which you allowed him to have you forever determines the circumstances you will find yourself forever. This may be hard to swallow but men don’t necessarily change in marriage. You can only learn to manage them. 

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What were you thinking when you allowed a man who beat you during courtship slid the ring to your finger and tell you “it’s for better for worst…”. Can’t you see its already for the worst? Can’t you see there is no better? 

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You have got him several times with other women on odd places and hours… You are sure he unfaithful to you and you allowed him to slid the ring into your finger and say “till death separates us”? Can’t you see? You’re entering your doom? You think all men cheat? I am sorry to disappoint you, believe it or not… I am a man and I don’t cheat!

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He doesn’t care about you. He doesn’t care about your looks. He is not concerned about your welfare and he gives you excuses that he doesn’t have money and that you should be doing something. And you still allowed him to lock your finger with the ring? Not that he will sell himself for you but when a man isn’t caring you don’t need a Prophet to know.

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A lady told me she is ready to marry a man who cheats, that she can condone it as long as he doesn’t bring her home. I was watching her as she speak and I wondered if she was thinking that life is those things we see in Hollywood movies. Hey… Babe… Don’t bet on it. You can’t condone it… You can’t be yourself anymore.

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Don’t settle for any kind of man. You may ask… “isn’t it someone that will marry him?” But let me ask you “are you a beggar?” These days even beggars have choice.

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Excuse me, all you want is just the ring and the “mrs” title? Is that all you were created for? 

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A friend of mine said to me “I am not marrying for the sake of being married. I am marrying the man who will bring out the gold in me.” I loved her more for that. She understands it better. So many women want to marry so that they can avoid the ridicules of her peers. They may tell you that you aren’t getting any younger but don’t jump in to be with any man.

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Don’t accept the ring under any kind of condition. Accept it on good conditions alone. Don’t risk your life and future for the sake of a useless union where you end up becoming the beast of burden. 

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Now that you are still getting to know him… If he can’t make sacrifices now, he can’t make sacrifices then. If he can’t care for you now, he can’t care for you then. If he can’t stop cheating now, he will cheat more then. Don’t think the ring on your finger means you’ve gotten control of him forever… No… It means you’ve accepted to live under a certain condition forever. It may be good condition and it can be a very terrible condition.

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Then you divorce? Are you thinking of that? It’s still not easy to live as a divorced person.

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It all boil down to friendship… If he isn’t a good friend he can’t be a good husband. If he is a wonderful friend, he will be a wonderful husband. Never marry someone you haven’t gotten to know well, no matter the pressure you face. Unless you are one of those people who don’t build and nurture relationships.

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Next time you see the ring, don’t think it can only be love.

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Now let me say… When a good man who loves God and you finds you. Don’t think someone better will come, there is no better than that who respects your choices, supports you and believe in you. That of course is love!

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#KingGeorge

#GracefulGeorge 

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