STAND BY HER 



Dear Men, 

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You’re special and you must understand it about yourself. Men who are ignorant of who they are go about looking for one girl to have fun with after another, they feel that is what proves their smartness. It is not true.

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I stumbled into a post that read “if virginity is part of woman’s pride, what is the pride of the man?” And someone said “the pride of the man is to break a woman’s virginity”. It gave me a picture immediately. While I am not of the view that women who have lost their virginity have no pride or that the hymn is the pride of the woman, I would love to communicate something very important. From the picture painted in the Facebook scenario, I discovered that foolish men feels they are being man enough by jumping from one girl to another and whenever they succeed in deceiving a woman they feel they’ve done something great… That is what some of them feel is their pride. They think their pride means stealing the so-called pride of a woman.

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Real men are men who understands the woman. Follow me… God designed men to chase after women because they are treasures and God designed women to be good listeners because they are supposed to be helpers… A good helper is always a good listener because they want to be attentive enough to know the areas that needs their help.

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Have you wondered why a woman would want her husband to tell her everything that happened in the day? Do you know why a woman enjoys stories so much especially from her husband or loved one? It is because she is designed to respond to needs, to listen and find areas where she can help. However, the devil uses these qualities of each gender against one another. I will tell you how…

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When an uncultured man sees a woman, he chases after her and when he talks to the woman, she digests what she hears even when she pretends like she isn’t listening. Sometimes, she may begin to think that the sweet tongued “uncultured man” really needs her in his life and she succumbs to him. Not because she is cheap but because she feels she is needed. She may be pressured to act out of place especially when she have not experienced the transformation of Christ.

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Have you wondered why the devil didn’t come to tempt man in Eden? Because might not be not be patient enough to listen to him and so he had to come through the woman. Anytime you want to get a man, come through a woman he loves and you’re likely to get all of him. 

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Having understood this, we must realise that as men we have a role to play. The women needs our voice and strong support. God created the women to help their men but God made it in a way that woman must be supported by the man for her to carry out her activities so well. Women can be independent, they can be whatever they want to be in life when it comes to the social world… But when it comes down to their emotions, the woman needs a shoulder to lean on. You may not understand this. This is why many women mistakenly fall into the arms of hungry lions… they need a shoulder to lean on but the lion simply needs a meat to devour.

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What is the pride of a man? It is the total woman! It is not her sexual organs but the woman in total! The total woman is worthy, the woman who doesn’t understand who she is becomes disgraceful. The bible says “A worthy wife is a crown for her husband, but a disgraceful woman is like cancer in his bones” (Proverbs 12:4 NLT). 

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A real man is not that man that delights in jumping into any woman he comes in contact with. On social media I saw a young boy bragging that he have had sex with about five of his Facebook female friends and his likes were praising him. Such a man won’t even recognise his pride when he eventually get married because he have not recognised who he is supposed to be. When you don’t know who you are, is it your pride that you’ll know?

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We have had cases of a man beating his wife or girlfriend to death! They may think that is the meaning of being a man but it is not true. The real man is a responsible man, he understands that the woman isn’t a weaker vessel but he treats her like one because he knows she is a treasure. How do you treat your most treasured car? You make sure people don’t scratch it… it is strong but you pamper it like an egg.

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Men must rise up to stand behind the women, to speak against cultures and traditions that places women in limits. We have so many cultures that limit the women so much from becoming who they should be and it is time men rise to stand by the women. It begins from the home. The boys shouldn’t be trained to see themselves as the superior. Sometimes I see parents teach their daughters to respect the boys who may probably be her junior and they claim they are training her to be fit for her husband. While it may sound like true, I have a problem with that concept. Children should be trained to respect one another and see themselves as special and not train one to feel superior to another.

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Boys should be trained to get familiar with the kitchen too and girls should be trained to understand that career doesn’t live in the kitchen and bedroom. 

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Men have left the role of training the children to the cares of the mothers but this is not how God designed it. In the Bible the men was involved in the training their children. Solomon received training from his father and he knew what was right to ask God in prayers. Only David could have taught him that. When parents train their children together, the children will learn to work together regardless of gender.

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Man, you need to love the woman. Don’t see the woman as a sex toy, something that seems precious to you for few moment and then useless for the rest of the day. Don’t see the woman as someone who needs support because she’s weak… She’s not! See her as someone who needs your support in order to help you become the best of you. The reason you need to bring out the gold in your woman is because her gold will make you rich. You aren’t bringing out her gold because she wants to be rich… No, she will make you rich. No wonder the Bible says that a man who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour! (Proverbs 18:22)

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The real man doesn’t mind empowering the woman to reach the peak of her career in life, the real man isn’t afraid of the woman’s success because he knows she is his pride! If she succeeds, he has succeeded! The scripture is clear on that “her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life.” – Proverbs 31:11 NLT

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For a woman to dump her family name and pick up yours shows you that the woman isn’t coming to uphold her name, she is coming to uphold your name! The word “woman” ends with “man” and when a woman come into union with a man, her name ends with his name too.

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Our younger boys must learn to see women differently. They shouldn’t see ladies as people fit for hang out alone… God knows, when a woman comes into my life I do my best to let her see the best of herself, I do my best to let her know that she can achieve anything she wants to achieve. Young men have to remodel themselves, let their women-chase be for the good. Our culture and traditions made our young boys care less about the place of the female folks and that’s why you hear them say things like “if I marry her and she messes up, I will deal with her” or “she must be the one to do the laundry, the meals and every homework”. They make those remarks about females because they were raised to have no regard for the female folks other than seeing them as people who were sent to serve them and not really to help them.

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My dear Men, I am a young man who has grown to understand our women and I have discovered that they are also God’s finest and they are co-heirs and not really servants. Let’s respect our women and let’s deal with them as treasures. When next you meet a woman, let the first thing that comes to your mind be “wow… she must be good as an entrepreneur, photographer, lawyer, president,” and so on and not “wow… she must be good in bed”… Don’t forget, women are our pride!

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For now, digest it… 

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#KingGeorge 

#GracefulGeorge 

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