FIRST LOVE IS THE BEST LOVE


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When it’s new! It’s amazing! When it gets old, we start getting fed up. It’s because we stopped trusting, we stopped seeing the beauty, the innocence and the perfection we had always seen and started comparing, compromising and living with guilt and thoughts of “what if he/she is doing the same thing am doing in secret?”
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No wonder the Bible says “return to your first love!” Yes, the first love which seems crazy, hot and strong! That is the kind of love that can fan it aflame again! You can return to it if you want to, by doing away with those things that brought doubts and fears… It can be from you, you know.
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The concept of “first love” applies to everything! Returning to your first love doesn’t mean returning to your ex or “first lover”, it means reviving the vigor that has been there in the first place when you got in love. I will give instances and you’ll see how it applies to all areas of life.
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When you got your desired smartphone or Laptop, you felt you have finally made it until you started seeing upgraded versions of the same device you bought. If you used Tecno devices, you’ll understand better. And you started seeing how slim and shiny the upgraded device looks plus the more features that was added to it… Maybe, a better camera quality! You looked back at the same device you had always celebrated and you feel like “this is trash!”… That is because the first love is gone. It was gone for a reason, comparison! I will share a personal experience now.
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There was a time I had a tablet that served every single purpose with which I bought it! I managed websites with it, did some graphics with it and kept all documents up-to-date… It made life easier for me until one day! Someone showed me another product and said so many good things of it! I would have just said “well, mine is great too!” But no! I started comparing, I started seeing faults too! I began to feel that my device was lagging, I started feeling the speed isn’t satisfying and I had to put it up for sale!
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My intention was to sale it off and buy the one I just saw! It took me time to find a buyer and the amount he priced it was so discouraging. One morning, I picked up that device, cleaned it up with a wet cloth, went to the mall and bought a new pouch for it… Mehn! It was looking great and I started asking myself “why on earth would you want to sell this? Isn’t it looking great and serving too?” I stopped noticing it’d lag sometimes, I stopped noticing that it didn’t have enough speed and I started enjoying my device again… I simply returned to my first love!
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This is what happens to many of us in our relationships, career and so on. We just started getting fed up because we started comparing and assuming the wrong things! We started seeing faults because you’ll obviously see many when you begin to listen to other voices and sometimes your instincts… People do say “follow your instincts” but your instinct can be corrupted by something you have preconceived.
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You remember the first time you got born again? Or maybe the first time you had an encounter that caused you to surrender to Jesus? That time is marked by zeal for Jesus and suddenly it begins to die down gradually! It is because we allowed the waves and storms of life to sway us about, we started doubting and somehow stopped renewing our minds like we should… Jesus wants us to return to our first love! He wants all of that zeal and all of that craziness for Him! He wants all of it… That is how it is in every relationship!
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Returning to “first love” is a condition of the mind. It doesn’t mean picking up your phone and calling the first person you “fell” in love with saying “I was told to return to my first love, I am returning back to you.” Nah! That is not the teaching. That business, career or relationship that you have loosed interest in, you can see good in it again if you can decide to start seeing what you had seen in it initially. Sometimes, we may have gotten disappointed and our expectations might have been cut short but we don’t always have to expect our expectations to be met… It’s not always about us!
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Against all odds, we can focus on the positive and decide to look away from the negative. Many times, there are just few insignificant weaknesses but we magnify them so much in our thoughts that it becomes a whole lot of problem! We can decide today to start seeing the positive and start appreciating it! The return to “First Love” isn’t automatic! It’s a journey… You don’t just say “okay, I have returned!” And there you are! No! You gradually start dealing with your mind, you start learning to trust, you stop listening to other voices, you start learning to stop assuming! With time, you discover you’re fanning it aflame again!
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#GracefulGeorge

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