From 2015 when we started George’s Diary Blog to this moment, a lot of thoughts has been shared on the subject of eternal salvation, some of the opinions also came from the notes I havee kept from years before 2015 when God started opening my eyes on the subject of salvation. Some of these thoughts may have been improved and made clearer as we grow. Before I heard the word “OSAS”, I already believed that Salvation is eternal. The reason was simple, that was what I understood as salvation from the day it became clear to me. John 3:16 which I started quoting as a little child says

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that WHOSOEVER BELIEVES IN HIM SHALL NOT PERISH, but have ETERNAL LIFE”

First, the criteria for salvation is the belief in the Son sent by God to the world; Jesus. In a nutshell, that is faith! So, salvation is by faith in Christ Jesus. Secondly, the invitation was given to whosoever and the result of believing is that “whosoever” shall not perish but instead have the life of God. I grew up knowing John 3:16 even before I could read comprehension in school. The doctrine of eternal salvation is accurately and vehemently captured in John 3:16

If you’ve followed George’s Diary, you’ll see a consistent use of the word “eternal salvation” other than “once saved always saved”, while you may find traces of the later, we have been much more consistent with using the word “eternal salvation”. The reason is that many people hinge on semantics to discredit us and therefore I prefer to use those things I know are word-for-word in consistent with what the Bible teaches. This doesn’t mean I believe differently from what many others who use the word “OSAS” believe. Another reason is because of some very few personal thoughts that I have kept to myself until there is more light in that area. The only thing I want to achieve with this article is to make my stand on the doctrine of eternal salvation very clear.

This is the same doctrine for which I have been abused by fellow church-folks, the same doctrine for which many severed all ties with me and the same doctrine for which my conviction is too strong that it had to rob me of the wisdom of reaching a compromise to keep some relationships, especially those who believe that once you don’t believe what they believe, you’re an enemy. The religious folks will always play the major role in the persecution of those who stand for the truth and the funny thing is that they won’t know they are persecuting us, they will always see it as though they are fighting for God.

There are few points that capture a large chunk of our stand, here in George’s Diary and other affiliate outfits and ministries on the doctrine of eternal salvation otherwise known as eternal security.

1. WHOSOEVER IS IN CHRIST is a new creature. We became new in our spiritual DNA, our past loosed hold on us which means that our new life is founded on God’s righteousness and not on sin!

“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” – 2 Corinthians 5:17 NLT

2. There is no place for works for the guarantee of salvation. We act as saved because we are saved, we don’t act to be saved. Paul called Galatians foolish for ever thinking they can earn salvation based on works.

“Let me ask you this one question: Did you receive the Holy Spirit by obeying the law of Moses? Of course not! You received the Spirit because you believed the message you heard about Christ. How foolish can you be? After starting your new lives in the Spirit, why are you now trying to become perfect by your own human effort?” – Galatians 3:2‭-‬3 NLT

3. A believer cannot lose his salvation, a believer cannot reject salvation. Anyone who claimed to be a believer and later denounced the faith, he never believed in the first place. When people denounce the faith, it is proof that they never believed the gospel. To believe is without doubt; doubting to the extent of turning back from what was once claimed to have been believed

“These people left our churches, but they never really belonged with us; otherwise they would have stayed with us. When they left, it proved that they did not belong with us.” – 1 John 2:19 NLT

4. A believer doesn’t sin, but even if a believer does sin, we have an advocate who intercedes on the behalf of the believer. The sin of a believer doesn’t nullify salvation. This is the ever-active work of Jesus! Jesus is the atonement for the sins of the entire world.

“My dear children, I am writing this to you so that you will not sin. But if anyone does sin, we have an advocate who pleads our case before the Father. He is Jesus Christ, the one who is truly righteous. He himself is the sacrifice that atones for our sins—and not only our sins but the sins of all the world.” – 1 John 2:1‭-‬2 NLT

5. We rest on the finished works of Jesus, we can’t improve on it or maintain it. If we are in Jesus, we are saved.

“God saved you by his grace when you believed. And you can’t take credit for this; it is a gift from God. Salvation is not a reward for the good things we have done, so none of us can boast about it.” – Ephesians 2:8‭-‬9 NLT

6. The power of sin has been dealt with. The ability of sin to keep you condemned has been destroyed. You are now subject to God’s grace.

“Sin is no longer your master, for you no longer live under the requirements of the law. Instead, you live under the freedom of God’s grace. Now you are free from your slavery to sin, and you have become slaves to righteous living.” – Romans 6:14‭, ‬18 NLT

7. There is only one unforgivable sin and that is the sin of unbelief. It is unforgivable, not because God is lacking in some degrees of mercy but because total unbelief is the rejection of salvation in its entirety. To deny Jesus is the sin against the Holy Spirit.

“But anyone who denies me here on earth will be denied before God’s angels.  Anyone who speaks against the Son of Man can be forgiven, but anyone who blasphemes the Holy Spirit will not be forgiven.” – Luke 12:9‭-‬10 NLT

8. The maturity of the believer is not hinged on dos and donts but on the revelation of God’s word, as it renews our mind. We were not given ministers of the gospel to teach what is sin and what isn’t sin, the essence is for the maturity of the saints.

“This will continue until we all come to such unity in our faith and knowledge of God’s Son that we will be mature in the Lord, measuring up to the full and complete standard of Christ. Then we will no longer be immature like children. We won’t be tossed and blown about by every wind of new teaching. We will not be influenced when people try to trick us with lies so clever they sound like the truth.” – Ephesians 4:13‭-‬14 NLT

9. We produce forth fruit as a result of what God is doing in us. It is God working in us to do good works and show forth our salvation.

“Dear friends, you always followed my instructions when I was with you. And now that I am away, it is even more important. Work hard to show the results of your salvation, obeying God with deep reverence and fear. For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.” – Philippians 2:12‭-‬13 NLT

10. The believer in Christ shouldn’t be afraid of judgment on any grounds because the believer is saved and eternally secured. Our love grows perfect every day in Christ.

“And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world.” – 1 John 4:17 NLT

11. The Holy Spirit is the seal and guarantees that we are safe in Christ and that God is with us forever.

“The Spirit is God’s guarantee that he will give us the inheritance he promised and that he has purchased us to be his own people. He did this so we would praise and glorify him.” – Ephesians 1:14 NLT

The only grounds on which people who question the doctrine of eternal salvation do so is is these questions “are you now saying we should continue sinning? Do you mean that if a Christian dies in fornication that he is not going to hell? Do you mean that when we don’t ask for the forgiveness of our sins that we are still saved?” But to some extents, these questions show our level of maturity, why should a Christian be thinking fornication all the time? Why aren’t they asking “if I was bitter about someone in my heart and suddenly die, am I going to hell?” Why are they only talking about the sins that we deem big?

The reason we keep debating sin is that we think it’s by moral instructions, that we can get men to growth… No, it’s not. Sin shouldn’t be a subject to dwell on, sin has been dealt with and as we grow in the word of God, we become more like God in the body, we continue to wear off the clothes of sin.

It’s either we are covered or we are not covered, its either we are saved or we are not saved. It is either we are sealed or we are not sealed.

When we discuss the gospel here at George’s Diary and other affiliated organisations, especially as regards to salvation, we don’t teach what we simply read in books or hear others, you won’t find us quoting anyone except the Bible because this is the same gospel that saved us when we were lost and confused. What changed us was the good news of God’s grace and his never-ending love. Our convictions stemmed up from the word when we knew nothing and when we knew no man!

We are so assured of our salvation that “making heaven” isn’t a prayers point you’ll ever hear us pray. When I do something wrong and I come to God in the place of prayer, I pour my heart to him and affirm how I didn’t get it right but I am not pleading for forgiveness to get God to forgive me, I am already forgiven even before I sinned, I simply key into that truth in all humility and absolute reverence to God. I also don’t have anything against people asking for forgiveness if that’s the level they operate in but the more you grow the more you understand what Christ has done and the more you stand on it.

When we keep teaching the word, we will discover that there is a change that comes from the word which moral instructions can’t give. If the gospel is God’s power unto salvation, we are rest assured that the gospel will also produce in us the desired fruits of the Spirit. To keep asking if believers will go to hell when they do something wrong is to outrightly say that the word lacks power and isn’t efficacious.

Jesus said “if you love me, keep my commandment” The Bible tells us further that the love of God has been shed abroad in our hearts. It takes love to live for God’s glory and not a list of ten commandments or a persistent announcement and threats of hell. What Jesus asked us to do is to be witnesses for him and not to start marking people for condemnation.

I pray for you today, that as you open up to God and the words of his grace, you are built up and grounded and as you discover your inheritance in Christ, you live more and more for him. May the eyes of your understanding continue to be enlightened in the knowledge of God’s word so that you can be able to do what’s pleasing to God. Amen.


-George O.N-
House of Vasileia

Does God Have The Final Say?

In the part of the world where I come from, we always sing a call and response song that says

“Who has the final say?
Jehovah has the final say…”

I believe in the sovereignty of God, I believe that God can do what he pleases and no one can question him about it, I believe that God can do all things all by himself! But I also believe, with regards to what the scriptures teach, that in God’s sovereignty, he has chosen to work closely with man in establishing his agenda on earth. In his sovereignty, he has chosen to leave us with an opportunity to make choices. Talking to the Israelites, Joshua said to them

“Choose today who you will serve. For me and my family, we will serve the Lord.”

As much as God had chosen the people of Israel, as much as God brought them out of Egypt to worship and serve his agenda, God still left them with the choice of choosing him or not. God’s say wasn’t final in their individual lives. I haven’t come to refute the sovereignty of God, I have come to show us how God uses his sovereignty. When God gives us an option but also show us the option he wants us to take, it means that God has seen the consequences of our wrong decisions and want us to decide rightly for ourselves. Choice is one gift God gave to man, he isn’t forcing the man to obey him, he gave us free will so that we can freely follow!

In this regard, you have the final say! God has already given his word and his word became a person, Jesus Christ, in whom we find rest. However, not everyone is saved because not everyone has accepted Jesus. You begin to implement God’s word and his judgement the moment you say “yes” to his word. Until you accept his word for your life, it may not become yours and the consequences of rejecting his word are yours to bear. The Bible says in John 3:16

“…Whosoever believes shall not perish.”

To say yes to God’s word means to stay in active compliance with his word. God told Abraham to go to a land that will be shown to Him. God didn’t force Abraham to a land, he just instructed Abraham to go to the land that will be shown to him and Abraham obeyed. He said yes by being in active compliance with God’s word and he fulfilled the purpose God designed for him. Had Abraham refused? God would use someone else and Abraham would bear the consequences of disobedience. Sometimes, it is not like God is punishing us for disobeying him, we simply walk into danger by ourselves when we refuse to obey.

For example, God’s word instructs that we flee all forms of sexual immorality. Committing immorality may not make God punish you but the emotional hurt that comes after break up is something you walked into by yourself, the diseases or unwanted pregnancies that may arise as a result isn’t a punishment from God but a danger you walked into! When you forsake the bridge and drive straight into the river, you will drown!

God brought salvation to the entire world through Jesus but some aren’t saved yet even though this salvation has been given. Until they say yes to God’s gift, it is not theirs. When a young man proposes to his girlfriend with a ring and the woman don’t accept the ring, the engagement hasn’t happened in the first place but the man has proposed. Believing is both vocal and active. The Bible says in Romans 10:10

“For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved”

We are justified in God’s sight just by accepting the gift of life that God has offered us. We begin to implement this salvation by becoming vocal about it! It is your acceptance of God’s salvation that makes it yours. Everything God has to say has been said in Jesus and it is now left for you to accept it and make it your confession! What are you saying today? What are your confessions today? Are you confessing a doctor’s report or God’s report? Are you confessing fear or hope? You’ve got the final say and what you see is what you say, what you say is what you get. Are you seeing fear or are you looking unto Jesus?

I admit you cannot stop God, your disagreement of his words cannot stop him from doing what he wants to do but it can stop you from benefitting from it. Until your mind is renewed, until there is a mentality shift from fate to faith, until you key into God’s life-changing words and plan for your life, you may never attain to that height God showed you that you will attain to.

You don’t just believe it in your heart, you also confess it with your mouth! You come to an agreement with God’s word and start allowing it to take form in you! When you confess God’s word over time, you’re letting it have a form in you, you are letting Christ have a formation in your character. This is what confession and the vocation of same do!

Now, you have a say! What are you saying?



In the Gospel, we see the story of how Jesus fed the five thousand with only a few fishes and bread. Feeding the five thousand was a great miracle, it is a remarkable one to reckon with but there is a deeper revelation in that act of Jesus. Let’s read

“Jesus took the five loaves and two fish, looked up toward heaven, and blessed them. Then, breaking the loaves into pieces, he kept giving the bread and fish to the disciples so they could distribute it to the people.” – Luke 9:16 NLT

Before the bread started multiplying, the Bible says that Jesus blessed the bread, gave thanks and went ahead to break the bread! If manna would fall from heaven in the old testament, why did Jesus have to break the bread? Why didn’t the bread just multiply without being broken? What was it about being broken?

The bread was blessed but the multiplication of the bread wasn’t in its blessing but in its breaking. This represented what Jesus was going to do, he was going to die and by his death he was going to become many! In the process of breaking, the bread reached about fifteen thousand people if we should count the women and children. The leftovers filled twelve baskets. People must have eaten to their fill, some might have eaten a double or triple portion and it was more than enough! Had Jesus continued to break it, it would continue to increase.

Jesus didn’t have to die to be blessed, Jesus even before death was blessing personified! Many were coming to Jesus and Jesus was healing them, forgiving their sins and setting them free! Despite all of the display of God’s greatness, there was a problem. Jesus was God’s way of being with a man but God didn’t just want to be with man, he wanted to spread himself and dwell in man. To achieve this, the blessed Jesus who was born of the blessed virgin mary had to be broken! The process of breaking doesn’t make any sense sometimes as we may see ourselves at the lowest level of life during that phase.

Jesus was powerful, men had sought to kill him before but couldn’t. Jesus had the ability to raise the dead, he had the ability to send armies from heaven but Jesus chose the path of breaking! He said in John 12:24

“I tell you the truth unless a kernel of wheat is planted in the soil and dies, it remains alone. But its death will produce many new kernels—a plentiful harvest of new lives.”

As a child, I and my siblings created a micro garden on our verandah where we tried out some crops. We sowed tomatoes, we sowed pepper and we sowed beans. I know that when we plant a bean during the cold weather, at first it seems like nothing is happening and all of a sudden, this beans begins to rot and then break apart. The first time we tried it, we couldn’t bear the fact that our beans were rotting away, we thought that it was going to be the end of that bean and we even wanted to know if we could save it from rotting away! It was after we had given up on it that we saw a plant sprouting up from what is left of the decayed bean. In coming months, we harvested lots of beans from the plant!

You may be blessed but it doesn’t mean you can’t be broken! The beauty of seed is in the breaking. When our bean began to sprout, the beauty was becoming more evident. It may take time but it continued to grow, we began to see the beautiful flowers and then the multiple seeds! Sometimes, the blessing must die for its multiplication to start!

That God has blessed you doesn’t mean you may not need to be broken, it doesn’t mean you may not have to be dragged out of your comfort zone into the fire! Your disposition during those moments of breaking matters. At the time of breaking, you may not understand it but you are being prepared for multiplication.

Joseph, the son of Israel had his own moment of breaking. He was having beautiful dreams, he was seeing himself in a condition that clearly shows that he was blessed but Joseph never knew what was going to come before him. He had to be sold into slavery, he had to go to the prison but all of that was moments of his breaking! Just like a seed, he was decaying, he was forgotten and suddenly, he started sprouting.

The moment of breaking is a moment of new things, its the moment of sprouting and it is one of the most important times in your life. Your breaking may not be pleasant, friends may desert you, people may betray or even deny you but if you can stay in it, you’ll sprout! For every man passing through the phase of breaking, greatness lies at the end of the tunnel! Jesus looked ahead and saw the joy awaiting him and he was willing to lay down his life. By his resurrection, ascension and the pouring out of the Holy Spirit, Jesus is able to multiply through us, this is God spreading himself through man!

When the grain of corn doesn’t die, no matter how much it is blessed, it cannot multiply. What you are going through right now may be your own moment of breaking, pass through it with pride and enjoy it knowing that the glory ahead far outweighs suffering.



A certain young man cried out recently. He had issues with his wife and she ran to her Pastor to seek counsel, he asked her to leave her husband. Her husband wasn’t abusive, he wasn’t battering her, it was the usual misunderstanding arising from two people which no matter how heavy it appears, is normal. The young woman left her husband based on Pastor’s instruction.

After a while, her husband got her into a discussion and they talked about her return but she said “I will ask my Pastor. If he permits me, I will return home.” As at the time of writing this, she isn’t back home yet, she wants to but Pastor has not spoken and she believes that loyalty to pastor supersedes loyalty to her husband which puts her loyalty to God under serious questioning.

To what extent does a Pastor have authority over members? Does being an organisational leader in itself signify that one is even worthy of submission? Is it God’s will that we submit absolutely to Pastors in a way that nothing is questionable? To understand what Christian leadership is and the limits in leadership, you may need to read some previous teachings I’ve done on that. They include

There are so much more but I carefully selected these ones.

With regards to the story above, how much authority do pastors have or are supposed to have over their members? Do members have a say? One of the popular quotes I’ve heard in the Christian circle over the years includes “you didn’t choose your Pastor, God did!” This statement is always used to cage people into unhealthy loyalty since it was God who made the choice for them.

First, let me say that God didn’t likely choose your Pastor for you, you did! They can be God’s will for you, they can also never be His will for you. Such a Pastor that destroys marriages isn’t God’s will for the woman, God obviously didn’t choose him for her. God has given us the ability to make choices including the choice of a Pastor especially when we don’t have one or when we find ourselves in ungodly and unhealthy pastoral care. The essence of being under the care of a minister, especially a Pastor is to learn and grow. The works of a Pastor ends in teaching you and encouraging you with God’s word. When it comes to your relationship with your pastor, here is what you must know and do.


Your Pastor is obviously someone who labour to bring God’s word to you. In some cases, they led you to Christ and in some cases, you submitted because you are hungry for the word. Anyone who isn’t bringing you God’s word isn’t your pastor, he may be a denominational leader but if you aren’t being taught by him, he isn’t your Pastor. Always have your Pastor in mind which may include honouring him with substances. The Bible says in Hebrews 13:7a (AMP)

“Remember your leaders who brought you the word of God.”

To remember means to keep an image in mind, to withhold yourself from forgetting something. In context, the writer of Hebrew was saying “always put into consideration and never forget those who labour to bring you the word.” Appreciation is one great way to express that we remember our Pastors. Appreciate those who labour to teach you the word, not just in words but in substance.


Don’t follow a man just like that! You must consider the conducts of your Pastor, is it worthy of emulation? Is it worthy of his office? Now, I am not saying that every mistake of a Pastor is an indication that he is false but a Pastor should largely and strictly lead a godly life. Every result of their conduct has to be examined, their words have to be examined and their stand has to be examined.

When a Pastor brings words to you, it is your duty to consider if those are the words of God. When men of God speak to you or even instruct you on something, it is your duty to discern and know when it is the mind of God for you. The Bible says in Hebrews 13:7b (AMP)

“CONSIDER the result of their CONDUCT”.


Pastors are human, they are like you and they have desires just like you. A pastor can make mistakes even though the office of the Pastor requires extra efforts. The mistakes of a pastor aren’t enough reason to withdraw your commitment to him, it is not enough reason to brand him evil! However, never imitate his mistakes and never glorify it.

The only thing permissible of imitation in ministers of the gospel and leaders is their faith! In context, this means their “zeal, commitment and absolute reliance on God”. This was why Paul wrote, “imitate me as I imitate Christ.” This means that as we follow our Christian leaders, we shouldn’t follow them into error! The Bible continues in Hebrews 13:7



Obedience and submission go hand in hand. What does it mean to obey and submit? First, without obedience, you cannot reap off the fruits of your Pastors, their words will be like seeds planted on the rock. Disobeying them means hardening your heart and making it less fertile for their teachings to take effect.

To submit means to willingly recognise their authority and affirm it, not as hype but with sincerity. You must understand that as a believer, you need a Pastor, God works with them to ensure you are matured. As long as we live on earth, maturity isn’t complete which means as long as you stay in this world, you need a Pastor.

If you want to get the most out of any leadership, you must willingly obey and submit. The Bible says in Hebrews 13:17 (AMP)

“Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls and continually guarding your spiritual welfare as those who will give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with grief and groans, for this would be of no benefit to you.”

The major reason you should submit and obey your pastors is that it makes discipleship very easy, how can a teacher teach you with grief? When your Pastors don’t Pastor you with joy, you won’t benefit anything from them. However, obedience in this sense simply means giving heed to the word of God and godly counsel that they bring to you.

As a Christian with the Holy Spirit in you, you need discernment to know when it’s God speaking. When the words of the Pastor is not in alignment with the truth of God’s word, you’ve got to obey God. When obeying your Pastor means disobeying God, you’ve got to obey God.

For example, the Bible instructs us to honour our father and mother but it is clear that honour here is to be in accordance with what God permits. We were warned against worshipping the false gods of our parents and threading the wrong paths they took! In our story, we see a woman leave her husband because Pastor asked her to but God definitely wouldn’t want that in all ramifications. Obedience to her pastor, in this case, is disobedience to God. This isn’t the kind of submission God permits. Our submission to others is to the extent of what God permits.

There are times God would ask you to do something specific and it is possible that even your pastor will not encourage it. It is not wrong to have certain convictions that your pastor doesn’t welcome, you aren’t a robot who has no understanding of its own.


A lot of pastors want to do what is right but find themselves taking sides with the flesh because it seems to promise instant gratification. To this regard, a pastor can make mistakes. Your duty is to pray for them in earnest.

To pray earnestly means to devote a considerable degree of time in praying for your pastor in all seriousness. They have a lot of battles going on in their lives, sometimes they are pressured to please people, they are pressured to please self, they are pressured to enjoy what isn’t forthcoming and they are faced with lots of temporal challenges resulting to sacrifices they have made.

To be a pastor is not an easy feat, don’t just look at what a Pastor seems to be enjoying now, look back to when they started! I have been privileged to pastor young people, I understand what it feels like to be there. People usually thought I was enjoying money because I always dress fine, smile, listen to everyone and never talk about my problems. I was single-handedly footing the ministry bills, I couldn’t raise a single fund because I didn’t have the audacity to do that! It would have been worse if I didn’t have a job then.

I remember the criticism I faced even from elders. Most of my good intentions were grossly misunderstood, I have my own share of pressure including a time I nearly lied just to raise some money for the ministry. This and many more are the reasons you should always pray for your pastor. The Bible says in Hebrews 13:18-19 (AMP)

“Keep praying for us, for we are convinced that we have a good conscience, seeking to conduct ourselves honourably in all things.”

Don’t just pray for your Pastors, also pray for ministers and ministries all over the world. Pray for me too and call me by name in your prayers.



In the part of the world where I was born, religion plays a very vital role in the life of the people. Poor people often find solace in the hope that religion offers and to some extent “Pastors” are well respected and almost worshipped especially when trails of newsworthy miracles follow them around. Here, people are more interested in your ability to wow them with miracles than your ability to teach them the word of God which is the major reason why we gather.

As a result, so many Pastors try to live up to expectation. People also value the words of their Pastor which is a good thing but they run to Pastor for what isn’t in the Pastor’s job description. This is where they make serious mistakes and this is where lots of Pastors miss it. Many Pastors will claim to have answers to things they don’t know because they want to appear relevant. Those who have extra coaching abilities will rob others of the time they have dedicated to learning the gospel just to listen to his coaching lectures every Sunday!

It is okay to be a Pastor and still know a thing or two about marriage counselling, business, career and so on. It’s okay to teach what you know including things happening in the society. It is okay to always throw in counsels when needed but in areas of your expertise.

Here is where the problem lies.
When we think that being a business, career, relationship and life coach is the same as being a Pastor, then we are missing it! In the Church ministry, it will be wrong prioritizing certain things against the main reason for our calling as Pastors. Many times, because of how we present ourselves, people tend to think we have all the answers to all their questions. We never saw a place in the Bible where marriage and career were based on Pastor’s decisions.

An elderly female preacher once told us a story in a conference. She had a Pastor whom she submitted to and was committed to the ministry in which he has been called. When suitors started coming to seek her hand in marriage, she went to her Pastor to seek counsel. This wasn’t a decision her Pastor was supposed to make for her, it was a decision she was to make on her own. But because she believed Pastor had all the answers to every question, she went to him to seek counsel. This Pastor asked her not to marry the very person her heart was beating for. He encouraged her to marry a richer suitor who can take care of her.

She went home, she was having some doubts this time about what the Pastor had told her. She prayed and was convinced in her Spirit that the same man her Pastor asked her not to marry was the man she should marry. She defied all odds and got married to this man. Her Pastor wasn’t a bad person but at that moment of decision making, he didn’t offer the best counsel. Her marriage was and is still blissful without issues for more than 35 years… Why? Because she realized Pastor doesn’t have all the answers and they have boundaries.

The ministry of the Pastor is to teach and disciple people with the word of God. It is not to make decisions for them. As a Pastor, you’re still very great if the only thing you know and can teach is the gospel. Why not focus on it? You must not give answers to every area of life just because you are scared to have your members seek knowledge from elsewhere. Stop confusing people with what you are ignorant of. You’ll still do better as a Pastor teaching nothing else but the word of God.

If you are a life coach and also a pastor, you must learn that the two aren’t interwoven, you ought to separate them! Practice your calling as a Pastor and coach people without the “ministry attachment”. Don’t enforce your opinion on people just the same way you teach them the Bible authoritatively. Church services aren’t the time to display your extra coaching skills. I agree, to Pastor people is to coach them but it has it’s limit… A pastor is only meant to disciples believers to mature and grow in the knowledge of the word of God. Anything outside that isn’t included in the job description of a Pastor.

Learning to separate the two will bring a balance. As a minister of the gospel and also an ICT coach, I know I can’t come to an audience yearning to learn the gospel and start teaching them ICT. I don’t automatically become my ministry proteges’ relationship, career or ICT coach if they never signed up for it. If they are signing up for it, they are doing so at their own discretion, as a separate business and without a ministry label attached. This way, we don’t start mixing up things for ourselves, we don’t come to a gathering where people want to learn the word of God and start teaching them how to make money or how to woo a girl! I’d rather fix a date for that but not certainly on events and meetings dedicated for the gospel of which I was called to teach.

A pastor isn’t necessarily a career or relationship coach, being a Pastor doesn’t give anyone right to control others and impose decisions on them. People should be free to have an opinion and coaching isn’t about having an opinion, it is about showing people things from a better perspective without robbing it on their face as a superior-no-alternative answer. After you’re done, they have the right to chose or reject your perspective.