Welcome to the age where men are fighting for relevance, where they have to suppress their wives and children to get what they suppose is respect. Sometimes, fighting for something simply indicates that we either do not have it, that we aren’t worth it or that we have lost it! If a man still has his headship intact, he may not have to fight for it, he would just have to act on it! If a man hadn’t lost his headship, is there any need fighting for it? Sometimes again, people fight for what they have because they don’t even know they have it or because they can’t even operate it and identify what they have from the results it yields.

Until men concede to the true essence of “headship”, until they humble themselves and take up the cloak of service, they will continue fighting for relevance, seeking for respect and yet never get restored into the seat of “headship”. Efficient leadership is found in the place of effective co-operation. You don’t fight for it, you don’t blow the trumpet for it! You simply walk into it within the doors of service. This service begins with love and gets achieved with love. Leadership cannot be proven by manipulated submission, it is proven by willing followership.

Before we look into some things that the Bible said concerning the man in his family, we are very much aware that if we want to understand the true way God designed men to serve his own body by the reason of the woman becoming one with him and the children being the products of that union, we must look at how Jesus served and serves the Church as His own body! Jesus said in Mark 10:45

“For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Jesus who is our Lord, the King of Kings and the saviour of the world never came seeking for people to serve Him! He came with service in His hands, He came offering service to anyone willing to receive. Yet, it is His service that got us all running to Him! You see the sick, the sinners, the rejected and even Children running up to Him because He serves, He wasn’t forcing submission on anyone as the religious leader would do, He was rather giving out Himself to people and these people, in turn, were bowing willingly to Him!

No wonder the women followed Jesus so well! They look at Jesus and they see the definition of the perfect man! They couldn’t see this kind of man in the religious leaders of that time, they couldn’t see it in the common men because the demands were heavy on them to always submit. It was a forceful submission to men and the ills of the society. A woman was caught in adultery, they passed judgment on her and almost stoned her in condemnation while the man was not even brought to the public but shielded! The same happens in our societies today, women are condemned if they ever cheat on their husbands while men are absolved by the society. Well, Jesus treated everyone the same! In Matthew 9:3, Jesus told a paralytic man that his sins are forgiven and in Luke 7:48, Jesus also told a sinful woman that her sins were forgiven. Jesus sees differently and if men must discover the place of headship, they have to learn of Christ.

We see something amazing about Jesus, He is aware that He is the Lord and the master, He is aware of His authority but the awareness of His authority only got Him into serving those that were supposed to serve Him. It was absurd when He bent low to wash the feet of His disciples, it wasn’t a ritual, it wasn’t a kind of ceremony, it was an example that He had set for every leader called by His name to follow. Jesus redefined leadership, He brought God’s meaning of leadership and in Him, we discovered that leadership simply means “serving others.” In John 13:13-15, as the disciples wondered why He would stoop low to wash their feet which is the work of the least of servants, He said to them

“You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you.”

Jesus needed to set the record straight. By His actions, He was shouting on top of His voice “leaders are servants! Lords and teachers are feet washers! If you truly identify yourself as the head, you must bend low to serve. The head serves the body.” Have you ever studied the body? What is the duty of the head? The head serves the body in several ways until the body becomes strong enough to give back to the head. Before you started feeding yourself, your mother would bring your head closer to her breast and let you suck her milk. It is by this nourishment that you became stronger to the point of being able to feed yourself through the same head that had started serving you! It is with the same hand that had become strong that you wash your head, do your makeups and make the head attractive! In the same manner, Jesus showed us that the headship of man is greatly displayed in service to his body and turn, the body gives back to the man.

The reason many men don’t enjoy respect today is that they were fighting for it, they were mounting pressures for it and they never worked for it! You can’t earn what you don’t work for. Many times, we are forcing women into the position of headship by forcing them to serve! The leader is the one who initiates service, he is the model of service. Why leave women to train the children while you just make money and pay school fees? Haven’t you asked why many children grow up following their mothers? This is because it was the mother that they recognized her services, they are giving back to the leadership they felt and could relate with.

Why do we have to look up to Jesus to see what exactly leadership is in the family? First, Jesus and the Church is the reality of God’s design for the family (Revelations 19:7). Secondly, the Bible instructs us to learn from Jesus (Matthew 11:29) and thirdly, the Bible instructs men to love their wives just like Jesus loves the Church (Ephesians 5:25), the man must act towards his wife and family as Jesus acted towards the Church. However, there are still more that we can get from the Bible and if men can heed to this, they will explore the place of headship!

The submission of the wife to the man is by influence. The man influences his wife through his service; a pleasant display of love and true leadership. Someone would respond to you and even bow before you not because they respect you in their heart but because you have a gun and would shoot them if they disobey. Jesus didn’t come forcing Himself to us, He came saying “come unto me, I have the rest you seek.” This is the manner with which men should express headship. The authority of the man isn’t that of a dictator, the Biblical-leadership of the husband is expressed with Godly virtues. The Bible says in Colossians 3:19

“Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly.”

I like the sound of that word “never!” The duty of the husband springs with love as Jesus loves the Church. The Bible also instructs that there isn’t any account on which the husband should be harsh to his wife. God’s desire in giving a woman to a man isn’t to get a new servant for the man but to allow the man to raise and model a Godly family! The woman is also a child of God, with the advantage of helping the man in his areas of weakness and the tasks given to him by God. This isn’t the sole reason women were created.

My previous articles have explained that beyond marriage, women also have the calling and blessing to subdue the earth and lead in society. In marriage, the woman possesses a strength that can help the man. God never graded the women as a second-place or an afterthought and this is why men are wired to care for them, not as though they are weak but because they are treasures that need protection. What will you do to the store of your treasures? Will you invest in security to keep it secure or will you leave it to the mercies of chances? Husbands influence submission by protecting and caring for their wives! There is no place of commanding the wife or pressurizing her into something. You influence her by your love, provision and utmost care! This is how a man initiates leadership. The Bible says in this regard in 1 Timothy 5:8

“But if any do not take care of their relatives, especially the members of their own family, they have denied the faith and are worse than an unbeliever.”

The husband sets an example of care and provision! Yes, the virtuous woman also provides, she is also engaged with several businesses and in the same vein don’t ignore her family and husband but the man sets an example of service and the woman also responds to this love wholeheartedly.

God never gave you a wife to use her as a punching bag! God never gave you a woman to experiment with your power and physical strength, she was given for companionship, to humble you and to help you become the best of you! It is wrong when you attribute leadership to your quest for power! Your physical strength is given to you to use and protect your wife and your children. It doesn’t make you superior, it simply brings uniqueness to your role as a husband. The Bible says in 1 Peter 3:7

“In the same way, you husbands must give honour to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.”

Wives aren’t to be treated as afterthoughts but with honour and understanding! This is one great way to discover and take your place as the head or leader in the family. Regardless of the physical strength of a woman, she is not inferior and should be treated as your partner! Sometimes men hinder their progress as “husbands” by the way they treat their wives. You need to also come to that place of submission, that place of accountability and that place of honour for your wife. The strength of the man was ever designed to be lord over a woman, the man should rather use that strength to care and love a woman. She will willingly follow as her followership is a gift for your awesome display of leadership.

Have you noticed that God designed both male and female in such a way that they would complement? Where the man is weak, the woman is usually strong and where the woman is weak, the man is usually strong! Technically, no one is truly stronger if we put all of this into consideration. We will always find the answer when we go back and look at the creation story. God brought the woman to the man because the man needed a companion and a helpmeet. The best of this woman can only be gotten in teamwork. When the recognizes and take his place as a leader in the place of true service, love and respect for the woman, he will build a successful home!

One way to dismantle spiritual order in homes is to fight for authority as a man. The kind of authority God wants the man to have isn’t that gotten through dictatorship, through pressure or even through emotional blackmail. It is the authority gotten through service and love for what God has committed to his care. When we serve, we win those who we serve and they gladly follow. A wife will always give back to the service of the man and this way the husband takes his place of ‘headship’ to raise a Godly-family.

God bless you.

~ George O.N

A true story of myself



I am not married yet and I definitely don’t have kids at the moment but I think I know one or two things about being a great father. Many people think that being a father is as easy as getting a woman pregnant and providing money for the upkeep of the Child but that is not true. As much as the financial support of a child is very important, it doesn’t make any man a great dad. An amazing dad has to be part of his child’s life in all ramification and as usual, we have listed some ways you would become an amazing father whose children will be proud of in years to come.


So many fathers are becoming so busy that they don’t have time for their family again. We often wonder why a high percentage of children are more attached to their mother, it is not how God designed it to be but fathers distance themselves from their children when they don’t spend time with them. Fathers ought to have deep conversations with their kids, listen to them and observe what they are good at and when they are not getting it right. Spending time with your children gives you the opportunity to know them better and they also know you better. Just because they are your children doesn’t mean you know them.

The Bible says in Deuteronomy 6:7 “Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.” You can’t impress God’s word on your children when you don’t spend time with them. The Bible talks about sitting with them, walking along the road with them, sleeping alongside them and waking up with them while you teach them! You have no excuse not to spend time with your kids. As much as you create time for your business, also create quality time for your kids and never let anything interfere with that time.


One of the promises I made to my unborn kids is that I will give them that wonderful honour of having a teacher, coach and mentor in me even before knowing the meaning of those words. Allowing strangers to become their first

teacher and coach will expose them to learn what you may never have wanted them to learn. Sometimes, there are things to teach children but there are also ways to teach it. Leaving your children at the mercies of others may make them learn things the wrong way. A great father is he who is committed to teaching his children what they ought to know. Don’t wait for the school, the traditions and the government to do that job for you.

The Bible says in Proverbs 22:6 “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.” You probably will not be there to teach them forever and therefore you must take the lead now and put them right on track. When you start your children off in the right way, they may swerve a while but they will always come right back on track because the words which you have given them in love will continue resonating.


Kids learn by observation and they will obviously copy everything they watch their parents do. For example, when you love their mother and also take turns in the kitchen, your children will grow up seeing it as the norm instead of subscribing to the distorted views out there. You don’t just teach your children how to respect people, you also show them how to do it by doing it. Some men try teaching their children morals but they live very immoral lives and even beat their wives in the sight of the kids. That is inappropriate.


To discipline your child doesn’t mean satisfying your anger on them. We must not confuse discipline and anger because while one is done in love, the other is done in temporal hatred. Discipline does not wait till something is done wrong.  To discipline your kids means to raise them to know what is wrong and what is not wrong. It also means to give them reasons why they must avoid doing the wrong things.

When a kid is going the wrong way, you may have to draw them back. In the case of near accidents, you may even have to slap them out from the road. To discipline a child means to bring up the child in the consciousness of good morals. The Bible says in Proverbs 13:24 “Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children. Those who love their children care enough to discipline them.” The rod of discipline doesn’t mean the rod of anger.


One way to prove our love is generosity. Beyond paying for rent and schools fees, you should care enough for your children to give them what they need and when they need it. I always tell people that it is wrong to have children when we are not ready or prepared to take care of them. It is understandable that tables turn at times and we may not meet up always with what we would are supposed to do but we must condition our heart to understand it is our responsibility. We shouldn’t be quick to relieve ourselves of our duties to our children. You can’t be an amazing father to your kids when you don’t care for their needs. The Bible says in 1 Timothy 5:8 “But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”  It is very ungodly to deny our children what they need.


Every father must have a compassionate heart towards their children no matter what they do wrong. It is also important that we learn from the story of the Prodigal son in Luke 15:20-24 on how a father must treat his child even when they go naughty. When our kids do something wrong, we always need to express our forgiveness and throw our arms of acceptance to them. A lot of men say things like “a father doesn’t show too much excitement. He may forgive but he doesn’t say it out.” A great father is not mean to his children even when they do wrong. One of the things that makes you a father is when you don’t give up on your children.


As much as you love your children, it is not everything that you can teach them and a time may come when you have to leave them to their own but you can always show care by talking to God about them. David prayed for Solomon in 1 Chronicle 29:19 saying “Give my son Solomon the wholehearted desire to obey all your commands, laws, and decrees, and to do everything necessary to build this Temple, for which I have made these preparations.” David knew it wouldn’t be enough to talk to Solomon about the Temple and obeying God and he went to God in prayers.

You may always need to pray to God concerning your children’s friendship circles, their academics, their life decisions and so on.


Your children are also human and they deserve respect! Being their father gives you no right to insult them and make them angry. When you keep insulting your children, they will grow up with very low self-esteem and fear. The Bible says in Ephesians 6:4 “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.”

You ought to be careful the words you use on them, the demands you place on them and how you treat them generally. The emotions of your kids must be put into consideration and you can discipline your child without making him or her angry.

You can be that great father that your children will be very proud of! What other ways do you think a man could be a great father and which of the points appeals most to you? Let’s get your feedback on the comment box!

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In a world of extreme disorder and imbalance, I’ll not raise my kids to think like the rest of the people, I’ll not raise them to see someone else as inferior and disadvantaged, I’ll not raise them to have the feeling of superiority over another and yet they will not feel inferior! My kids will know who they are, appreciate who they are but also respect who others are. Yes, my sons will not be exposed to the wrong trainings that turned men into beasts and extreme unrepentant egocentric bullies! I may not sit them down at all times to tell them what to do but I’ll show them how to truly be a man with what I do.
My sons will grow up to understand that there is no such thing as “kitchen is for women”. They will understand that anyone who could get hungry could get to the kitchen! They will learn how to cook not just from their mother but from me too! They will understand that God didn’t create women and gave them special cooking skills, anyone could do well in the kitchen and everyone is wired for the kitchen. Hold on… Is it just about kitchen? You’d ask! No, it’s not just about kitchen but the idea that usually link women to the kitchen cause more harm than good because it affects other areas of life, so if you think I am always over-flogging the issue of who goes to the kitchen, then you are part of the problem. Assigning domestic duties to a specific gender causes imbalance! Domestic chores isn’t gender-based.
I will teach my sons to respect the woman! I once visited a family where the females must serve the boys even if those boys are very junior to them! The girls must greet their junior brothers and serve them and I asked, they told me “we are teaching them how to be good wives!” And I quickly asked “then how do the boys learn how to be good husbands?” I think it is arrant nonsense to think such thing is training! I’ll never teach my sons that they deserve respect from women while women doesn’t deserve such from them. Just in a bit:
1. ATTENTION: I’ll teach my sons to pay attention to the woman with how I pay attention to my wife. Kids observe a lot and they imitate whatever they observe with speed! The boys will always treat their sisters just exactly how their father treat their mother, this is why it is important to settle disputes inside but shower all the love and admiration in the presence of the children! How I compliment my wife, seek her opinion, protect her, support her and pay attention to her change of mood will obviously reflect in how much sons treat my girls. I’ll make my sons understand that their sisters are treasures that needs to be cherished! When they grow up, they will eventually export this love. I’ll make my sons understand that loving a woman is part of their purpose!
2. COMMUNICATION: I’ll teach my sons that they aren’t wired the same way the woman is wired! I’ll teach them that for understanding to thrive, they must be patient enough to communicate with their sisters and digest all their rants! I’ll teach my sons that while they think things will be fine even if they don’t talk it out, that the woman wants to talk it out! With the way I communicate with my wife, my sons will know that communication is key! Aside just communicating, I’ll teach my sons that a woman’s opinion matter a lot and he’ll learn to respect her opinions too.
3. RESPECT & HONOUR: I usually hear “respect is reciprocal” but it only exist in the texts! In our part of the world, “respect is gender-based.” When a woman expresses her views and decides to stand on her right people shout on her and say “shut up! Don’t you know you are a woman? Is this how you will enter marriage? You don’t talk while men are talking!” I will warn my sons against such understanding, I will not just practice it for them to learn, I’ll also inscribe it in their hearts that a woman too needs respect and honour! I will make my sons understand that under no circumstances should they undermine a woman because she is a woman! It will be an abomination, a craze and almost like eating a “forbidden fruit” to shame a gender in my world! No matter the argument or fight, it will never be heard of that one of them ever said “women and their chicken brain!” I’ll teach them self-control and openness! That much respect they want, they should also give it out.
4. LOYALTY: I’ll teach my sons that when they eventually start dreaming of bringing someone else into their lives, they should ensure they are ready to submit their loyalty to the core. I’ll teach them that faithfulness is key and that they must be accountable to that relationship. This will largely tell on how I treat my wife too! I know it’s fine to have mutual friends with my wife but on no account will my wife become a subject of discussion and on no account will I export a friendship I share with my wife to someone else. I’ll teach my son that men can be loyal to their woman by being extremely loyal to my wife. Loyalty doesn’t just happen, it is intentional. I’ll make my sons understand that trust is something that should never be compromised, it should be held high at all cost!
5. PRINCIPLE OF FIRST LOVE: I’ll teach my sons the principle of first love! I don’t really mean “first lover” but first love! I’ll teach my sons that they’d stay with their sisters for so many years even up to two decades and still love them like they have always done at first! I’ll teach them this by ensuring I fan the love I have for my wife aflame! I know there are times I may feel like there is more, I know there are times I may not feel that urge to extraordinarily be all out for my wife, I’ll teach them that it has nothing to do with feelings! I’ll teach them that love is intentional and can be grown! Everyday will be like “we just fell in love” for I and my wife. They’ll observe this and they will play it out individually. Those things I did with my wife when we first met will always be replayed, we will still go out on such dates and I’ll teach my boys that girls are designed to be loved and protected by boys not because girls are weak but because they are treasures.
6. HONEYED WORDS: My sons must understand that they should be the first to tell their sisters how beautiful, strong, smart and inspiring they are before those on the streets begin to pour in their own compliments! My daughters will walk on the road with their heads high and when those boys say to them “you are very beautiful” they will respond “yea, I just heard that this morning from my family.” I’ll teach my sons that compliments are things that should consistently come from them to their sisters because they will always see me do that! I’ll make my girls so get used to how beautiful they are that no man on the streets will take advantage of it! My sons will understand the mystery behind “compliments” and also make it a habit even after they have grown! My sons will know that when she feel stressed and on the verge of giving up hope, she will need encouragement and words like “you can do this dear! Try, try and try again!” My girls will always come running to my boys when they need a shoulder to lean on!
7. GIFTS ARE LIFTS: Just like it seem I am wired, my boys will grow up understanding that girls deserve gifts and they interpret caring this way! Because they will always see me come home with nice stuffs (maybe inexpensive sometimes but from a sense of value) to my wife, they will also learn that women aren’t receivers because they want to dig gold, they are receivers because of how they interpret love! My boys will always stand out for my girls knowing so well that these girls in return will stand in for them!
8. APPRECIATION: My sons will learn from me how “appreciation” do the magic! Anytime my woman do the dishes or the chores, I’ll appreciate her with all my heart because she’s doing us a favour! I’ll say thank you for bathing the child, I’ll say thank you for the food, I’ll say thank you for just everything and they too, not just the boys will learn that every good deed deserves appreciation! This way, they will know that no one is wired to do it exclusively.
9. EQUAL BUT UNIQUE: I will vehemently teach my kids that the man and woman is equal but unique! I’ll never let the society corrupt them and teach them the wrong things! How am I going to do this? I am not going to relieve myself from teaching them, I’ll not depend on what they are taught in school and in children’s church! I will ensure that I am not too busy for them because they are part of my business. I will make my sons understand that everyone deserves equal opportunities and encouragement and I’ll teach them that both the man and the woman forms the very fabrics of humanity. This way, they will understand that there is no superior gender to another.
10. LEADERSHIP: I’ll teach my sons that they are leaders but I’ll also make them understand the context in which their leadership is supposed to play out. I will teach them that a leader isn’t one who want things his own way, a leader is one who is ready to serve, I’ll teach them that the leader of every home is a servant-leader! He is leading them into service, showing them how to serve and leading by example! They will learn that being the “head” means being the “chief servant”.
This is the best time to be living because I will be intentional with my family! The Bible says “train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it!” My family is a model and the narratives are changing. Once again, loving a woman is part of man’s purpose… Son, copy that!
My name is George O.N
I am highly family oriented!
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I once heard a preacher say that “whoever is in Christ is a new creature and therefore your parents are gone and your new father is God”. It pained me because the scriptures was being used in the wrong way. As long as your physical body is still with you, you’re still answerable to your earthly parents unless they’re the ones who rejected you.


In your new birth, your Spiritual man is answerable to God and it lives in honour to God and your physical man is answerable to your parents and it leaves in honour to them. It is devilish inspired to think that once you got born again you became alienated from your parents.


Regardless of what your Parents do, you have no moral right to curse them! Proverbs says


“Those who would curse their father or mother are like a lamp that goes out on the darkest night.” – Prov. 20:20 ERV


You see that? When you curse your parents, your light can’t shine even in darkness. Light is supposed to be noticed in darkness no matter how little but when your light can’t​ shine in darkness it means you’re no light! In the time of the Law, anyone who dishonours his parents receives an automatic curse! Sometimes they even face death! Remember, the law defines what sin is and so even under grace disobedience to parents is still sin. 


Your parents are your first leaders, dishonouring them means dishonouring God who gave them to you! It doesn’t matter if your parents are Christians or not, you must give them their honour and through your light that shines you may be able to win their heart to accept Jesus. It doesn’t mean you should follow their wrong commands but you have to refuse in respect, you have to honour them still! Honour doesn’t mean obeying everything which includes the wrong counsel, it means holding them in high regard.


These days, it is rampant to see a son beating his mother! It is common to see Children exchanging words with their parents and it is truly immoral! In Leviticus 20:9 people who use abusive words on their parents are brought out to the city and put to death! That is to show you the grave consequences of dishonouring your parents. In Exodus 20:12, the Bible says


“You must honor and respect your father and your mother. Do this so that you will have a full life in the land that the Lord your God gives you.” 


When you honour your parents, it comes with a blessing of longevity because as you honour them they make proclaims of blessings on you! No matter who your parents are, when they open their mouth and bless you, you’re earthly blessed! Have you seen some unbelievers who are enjoying earthly blessings? That is to tell you that certain blessings aren’t based on being a Christian! Their are principles on how to become earthly successful! No matter how you fast, pray and engage in certain Spiritual exercises, if you aren’t following these natural principles of success you’re bound to remain a failure on earth! Honour for your parents is one of the major principles!


Sometimes when I want to engage in certain things and I seek my parents blessings, what I do is not even to share the idea with them. I just go and buy something that will please them. When they’re pleased, I receive blessings and it works! Look at Jacob, Jacob received blessings not because he was a believer in God but because he pleased his father! Yes, he did it in a cunning way but the blessing worked! In Genesis 27:38 we see that blessings are irreversible!


In the New Testament, obedience and honour to parents were expounded and its importance was re-emphasised so that believers shouldn’t think that once they are in Christ they deny their earthly parents! Paul wrote


“Children, obey your parents the way the Lord wants, because this is the right thing to do. The command says, “You must respect your father and mother.” This is the first command that has a promise with it. And this is the promise: “Then all will go well with you, and you will have a long life on the earth.”   Fathers, don’t make your children angry, but raise them with the kind of teaching and training you learn from the Lord.” – Eph. 6:1‭-‬4 ERV


God wants you to obey your parents and give them the honour they deserve! For not killing you in the womb, for not killing you as you were growing up, for showing you their support… You must honour them even when they’re not believers! If you’re living in enemity with your parents, you need to go back and reconcile with them. While it is the parents duty to train up their children in the way they should go, it is the children’s duty to give honour to their parents!


It has not changed, honour for your parents is still compulsory! Do you want to enjoy the blessings attached to it? Honour your parents! Do you want to live your entire life in frustration? Reject your parents and curse them!


God bless you!





“See how much the Father has loved us! His love is so great that we are called God’s Children — and so, in fact, we are. This is why the world does not know us: it has not known God” 1 John 3:1 GNB

George's DiaryLet me explain the beginning of this chapter of the scripture. The Holy Spirit through John wants us to understand how much God has loved us. John was the same “John the beloved” mentioned in the gospel. He had closer relationship with Jesus than other disciples, he knew so many things that others did not know but he did not understand at that time the person of Jesus very well until he experienced the death and the resurrection of our Messiah. No wonder he wrote

“…We have heard it, and we have seen it with our eyes; yes we have seen it, and our hands have touched it. When this life became visible, we saw it; so we speak of it and tell you about the eternal life which was with the Father and was made known to us. What we have seen and heard we announce to you also….” 1 John 1:1-3 GNB

John was writing out of experience! He would relax on the shoulders of Jesus, he shared in the secrets of Jesus and he never knew he has been with God all those while until he got more knowledge on the person of God! Many of us have actually believed in God but it seems we don’t know him, many are experiencing God’s miracles but just like John who witnessed firsthand miracles of Jesus it seems like they are still wondering if it is God! Why? Because some of us are still in conformity with the world! Truth is, the world does not know God and their definition for God does not speak well of God!

If the world does not know God, it also does not know you! Therefore the world will define you wrongly; it will tell you who you are not! And if you are conformed to the world, you’ll believe them. The world will tell you how wicked God is, how he doesn’t care about floods and earthquakes, how he doesn’t care if you are poor or hungry and if you reason along with the world, you have no choice but to believe that they are saying the truth. But then, John is trying to let you “see how much the Father has loved you!” God sees you as his child. The greatest love a father will show a prodigal son is to forgive him and still declare him “my son!”

The world wants to give you reasons to believe that God does not love you or that he doesn’t even exist and therefore gift you an option of choosing the other side of life! You can only live like God when you understand and believe that you are a child of God and that he loves you. Being Christ-like involves thinking the way God does! God wants us to live a pure life because he is pure. He wants us to talk and act like him just like every parent wants their children to be like them.

We all know that Jesus is coming again; we can only be ready for his second coming if we really believe that he has actually paid the price of our adoption. It may not be so clear to you now concerning who you are due to challenges surrounding you, but refuse to agree with the world! Refuse to doubt God and his everlasting love for you! Don’t rely on the world’s definition because they cannot really define you but maintain your stand and align yourself with what the scripture said. Do you know what John meant by saying “… we are called God’s children — in fact, so we are…”? It means God did not just call you his children, you are really his child!

Finally, you can live exactly like God if you cling to the hope of everlasting redemption. When Jesus comes again we will be exactly like him because we will see him like he is (1 John 3:2)! What does that mean? It means you are exactly what you know about Christ! The more you know him, the more you become like him and on the day of his second coming after you have seen him perfectly, you’ll also become like him perfectly.

John wrote in vs. 3

“Everyone who has this hope keeps himself pure, just as Christ is pure”

Let Jesus be your model. We can only be better when we keep gazing at Jesus. Since you’re God’s children, don’t act like children of the world, act like one!


1 Peter 1:16-21 “… We have not depended on made up stories in making to you the mighty coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. With our own eyes, we saw his greatness… We ourselves heard this voice… So we are more confident of the message we preach.”

 John 1:10-13 “…the word was in the world, yet the world did not recognize him… some, however, did receive him and believe in him; so he gave them the right to become God’s Children… not by natural means…”

 PRAYER: Dear Lord, thank you for loving me and for making me part of your family.